I found myself asking "Why do I keep attracting this kind of person? Is something wrong with me?"
That question never helped me do anything but drown in my helplessness.
What did help me was to get curious about why I chose them.
Yes, they chose me. But then I chose them back. That's where my power was. In my choices.
Why did I let them in?
There are warning patterns before it goes bad.
There are clues that show us where the misalignment is.
What was I not paying attention to?
What are the moments I didn't feel safe? What was I ignoring?
How will I notice next time? How will I choose differently?
These questions gave me my power back.
Agency is key.