May
29
On Socializing: Remember to Forget Yourself
Sometimes we go through shit and we stop looking outward.
12 min read
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May
22
Worry Isn’t Always Care
Care is an act of nurturing.
6 min read
Apr
17
On Being Known
Most people in your environment might not be in the work of receiving. But that doesn't mean you're not receivable.
4 min read
Apr
03
Why Good People Cheat (and What to Do About It)
What if cheating isn’t about willpower or morals at all?
25 min read
Mar
27
Redefining Safety: A Supporting Guide for Discernment
If we had safe community, safe relationship would be a natural expectation that stems from that. We don't get to have a strong expectation of one without the other. We find inner circle people by feeling safe enough to venture into community to begin with.
20 min read
Jan
23
What’s Your Conflict Style?
The missing work of attachment styles.
25 min read
Jan
09
Requests vs. Demands: A Key to Honest Relationships
If requests are for truth, and demands are for compliance, which one is your behavior really communicating?
18 min read
Feb
11
On "Moving too Fast" in Relationships
We dismiss the truth as if that makes it go away, but the truth never needed our permission to exist.
4 min read
Feb
05
On Acknowledgment & Accountability
So it turns out, I was having a painful conversation about something my mother did and how it impacted me. My mother was also having a painful conversation, but about her identity and value as a mother.
7 min read
Nov
20
Understanding and Healing Relationship Anxiety
Relationship anxiety isn't your fault, but a part of relational hygiene is to minimize the need for unnecessary emotional labor. You've got this.
11 min read