Surviving vs. Thriving

We grow up consumed by the need to survive and we enter adulthood consumed by the need to survive.

This is what it means to be a complex trauma survivor.

When we’re conditioned to survive we know very little about what it means to thrive.

I’ve met so many people since I started doing this work who don’t know what happiness feels like. What fulfillment feels like.

Who don’t know what brings them joy or enjoyment. They can’t touch it. They’ve got little to no recognition of holding that feeling in their bodies.

We have to find it from ground zero. A curiosity. An idea. A notion, of what it means to feel good. And what helps them find that feeling.

I’ve worked with others who have memories of these feelings. Who have evidence that these feelings exists for them - but it’s a glimmer. And also a luxury. They’re not allowed to prioritize it. The idea that these feelings can be a priority is a foreign concept.

“How?”