The Power of Taking Things Personally (Or Not)
"...no matter how many times I heard "Tori, everything isn't about you" when I’d get offended or take something personally, I couldn't seem to really get it."
On Values
Getting clear and intentional about my values was one of the best things I've ever done for myself.
The Reality of Emotional Needs
When our physical needs aren't met, our physical health declines. We may fear illness and death. When our emotional needs aren't met, our mental health declines. We may fear suicidal ideation or worse. But when these needs are met? We thrive.
Healing Your Relationship With Anxiety
We assume fear is here to tell us to just keep everything the same, don’t push forward, don’t take the risk! But what if this isn’t true?
Mentally Healthy Goal-Setting
Be careful to set goals out of love for who you are. Not to get away from yourself.
How Finding Your Purpose Actually Works
Love represents our relationships with other people. Purpose represents our relationships with our lives.
Hurt vs. Harm
Being triggered isn't an assault. It's information.
Working With Emotional Triggers (A Full Guide)
Working with emotional triggers is the act of soothing your nervous system so you can address what's happening right now for what it is. A potential problem. Nothing more, nothing less.
Transforming Your Inner Critic
Why would we ever try to silence an ally instead of partner with it to form a better-functioning allyship? Wouldn't that make more sense?
The Myth of Self Awareness
If I were practicing self awareness 10 years ago I would’ve been aware that my assholish guard was covering up deep, deep anguish. I would've known that the anguish I felt wasn't caused by any of the people I was behaving that way toward. But I wasn't aware of that.
